When you point the finger, always remember that two fingers are pointing back at you!
Boys, get real! Sometimes it is your own actions, or lack of action, that is a precursor to an affair. Even though it wasn't you specifically that broke the vows and destroyed the trust in your relationship, if you don't look deeper into the problem it might occur again, or worse yet, end the marriage.
As humans, we have made things very difficult for ourselves by participating in sexually monogamous relationships, since studies indicate that humans are not monogamous by nature. Furthermore, even though the perceived notion is that men cheat far more than women, studies indicate that women in today's society are straying in greater numbers then ever-almost equaling their male counterparts. Susan Shapiro Barash, author of "A Passion for More: Wives Reveal the Affairs That Make or Break Their Marriages", discovered that 34% to 40% of women have extramarital sex compared to 40% to 50% of married men.
Things have certainly changed, and through resources such as the Internet, finding an extra-curricular tryst has become easy. Online services such as The Ashley Madison Agency (www.ashleymadison.com) cater to attached adults seeking affairs. Preparation can now be done within the privacy of one's own home!
|